The Good Old Days: A Reflection on Values and Community

The Good Old Days: A Reflection on Values and Community

By Engr. Ndifreke Nyong

As I reflect on my childhood, I am reminded of the values that our parents instilled in us. We were taught to be humble, honest, diligent, and God-fearing. These values were not just mere words, but a way of life that guided our interactions with others in our community.

One of the most significant aspects of our upbringing was the emphasis on community service. We were encouraged to run errands for our neighbors, especially the elderly ones. We would fetch water, collect firewood, and sweep their compounds without expecting anything in return. These acts of kindness were not only a way to show respect but also a way to build relationships and foster a sense of community.

I remember going to the market, which was a considerable distance from our homes, to buy foodstuff and other essentials for our neighbors. Sometimes, we would be sent on multiple errands in a day, without any written notes to guide us. If we forgot anything, we would have to go back to the market, regardless of the distance. But we didn’t mind, because we knew that we were doing something good for others.

Fast-forward to today, and it’s clear that times have changed. The younger generation is growing up in a world that’s vastly different from the one we knew. With the rise of technology and urbanization, the way children interact with their communities has changed dramatically.

It’s not uncommon to see children as young as 9 or 10 years old refusing to run errands for their parents or neighbors, let alone going to the market on their own. Some might even ask for payment or incentives before agreeing to do something, which is a far cry from the values we were taught.

While it’s essential to acknowledge the changing times and the impact of modernization on our society, it’s also crucial to recognize the importance of the values that our parents instilled in us. Humility, honesty, diligence, and a sense of community are still essential virtues that can help shape the character of our children and build a stronger, more compassionate society.

As we navigate the complexities of modern life, it’s worth reflecting on the good old days and the values that brought us together as a community. By embracing these values and passing them on to the next generation, we can create a brighter future for ourselves and for those around us.